My Self Assessment...
After completing this assessment, I realize that I have a pretty balanced life except for one area. I exercise daily, my nutrition is great and I incorporate mental fitness to keep my mind sharp. But my one downfall is interpersonal-- my family stresses me out. My brother and his wife, my sister and her future husband and my mom. They all come to me for everything and I just can't say no, not to mention they are always fighting among themselves and like to pull me into it. It interferes with the intimacy with my husband, my business and at times my workouts. I have talked to them about boundaries I set, but in the end I give into calm the mob. My mom has just recently been diagnosed with Dementia and I am the one she trusts the most. But in reality the needs of mom need to be shared by the whole family. To help with my relationship with my husband we have planned some out of the home activities and I turn my phone off or give it to someone to answer in case of an emergency, so this time is just one on one time with my husband. We have actually started taking a ballroom dance class to bring us closer together. Seems to be working! As far as my family, I feel when I am out with my husband unless it is an emergency, I do not need to respond. There is only two people I let know where I am at all times and that is my two daughters, who believe that our time together is precious and should not be disturbed.
It sounds like you have a lot on your palate right now. I know how tough dealing with dementia can be. We have a close family friend that has always been a father figure recently he has been going forgetting things and it causes a lot of frustration between those close to him. I hope that with time your family will step up and you all can work together.
ReplyDeleteCyndie,
ReplyDeleteI must say, I am impressed and admire how you are dealing with the area in your life that needs attention. My boyfriend is part owner of his business and it makes me crazy when his coworkers and employees call or text him in the evening up to late hours. I feel they have him ALL day the evening is MY time with him and I selfishly don't want to share him anymore. I also think taking the dance lessons together is so awesome! My boyfriend and I just took a class together at church recently and that was nice. A concern I have is having/making time together. Our lives are both so busy I feel overwhelmed alot. I think you are very smart in your decisions and putting your relationship as a priority is awesome!
Kristine G.
Cyndie, I can so relate to your blog. I am stressed beyond relief. I can not seem to balance it. I start out with identifying the things on my plate. Somewhat prepare a game plan..more like prioritizing and BAM out of nowhere comes issues that blindside me and PARALYZE me to the point where I can not even carry out my initial plan much less enjoy a few moments of the day that I know God has blessed me with.
ReplyDeleteI think you are doing a fabulous job at dealing with things that need attending to. I am taking Zumba. That is my latest ME time. I hope to God I can make it tonight even though I have a paper due and an exam. My daughter is always pulling at me also for attention.
Boundaries - what are those? I cross them just as soon as I set them. Are they even realistic? sigh. Sorry I am not in a good place today.
I LOVE your time that you have set aside for you and your husband. Keep it up and you will reap the benefits. Have to keep that foundation and spontenaity in your marriage :-)